The Ultimate Bucket List

Hello

Here I am again blogging!!!

With every blog post I publish, I aim to challenge you to take a moment to think about things a little deeper.

This blog post is no different.

This blog is about bucket lists.

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Bucket lists contain things you wish to achieve before you die. Sorry for sounding morbid, but sooner or later, we will all die so it’s important to live your life to the full…

If you haven’t already, I encourage you to create a bucket list. They are great because they allow you to dream crazy dreams and give you something to look forward to as you grow older. I have seen a lot of adventurous bucket lists out there which consist of things like:

  • scuba dive the great barrier reef

  • go bungee jumping
  • become a millionaire by the time I’m 30
  • solve a rubix- cube
  • meet Mike Tyson!

 

I think these things are exciting because they make us feel alive. However, I have noticed that a lot of bucket lists are about making ourselves feel good.

There is nothing wrong with this at all, however, I have a suggestion to make.

Can I invite you to write an additional bucket list? One that benefits others?

For example, before I die I would like to:

  • fund a child’s education
  • invite lonely people to my home
  • randomly pay for someone’s food shopping at the supermarket
  • take someone on a shopping spree
  • make time for an older family member

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Think about it. Some of the most inspirational people in history are those who make the wellbeing of others a priority. I encourage you today to start putting a list together and to start working on it straight away.

If you feel comfortable, please leave a comment below listing one thing you would add to your new bucket list.

Until next time.

Crystal Debrah 

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2014

Happy New Year,

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So here I am again, blogging…

It’s a new year and most people are filled with hopes and expectations for 2014 – it’s a good thing! Lots of people make new years’ resolutions around things such as weight loss, being able to buy something expensive and/or career advancement. These are all great, but I’m bored with such resolutions. It’s time to look at the bigger picture.

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THIS year I’ve set myself some crazy out-there goals as I’m sick and tired of limiting myself to “life as usual”. In 2013 we lost some influential game changers who made the world a better place such as Nelson Mandela and Dr Tayo Adeyemi. Their passing into eternity made me think “who in our generation is going to be a game changer and make the world a better place now?”

I came to the conclusion that I’m willing to be one of those people who give their everything to humanity and die leaving a legacy of love, goodness and hope for the next generation. It won’t be easy and it’s going to cost me, but it’s worth it.

If what I’ve written resonates with you then here’s my challenge to you – come up with an idea that will benefit humanity and seems impossible to achieve. Get to work on it and see how far you get by the end of the year. I’ve started already!

Here’s to 2014 and beyond.

If you do plan to take up this challenge, tweet me (@crystaldebrah) and we can encourage each other throughout the year.

Until next time.

Crystal Debrah

http://www.crystaldebrah.co.uk

The Poison of Comparison

Hello all!

Here I am again blogging…

This blog entry will definitely get you thinking!

Low self esteem, self-hatred, self-pity, insecurity… I don’t like them and neither should you.

The above issues arise from a number of sources but I’m going to focus on one in particular in this piece – comparing ourselves to others.

Have you ever found yourself feeling lousy because you don’t have the right image or you think others are better than you? I’ll be touching on these issues below so read on.

SELF-IMAGE

I’m writing about this topic because I was recently on a panel for the Great Debate Tour 2012 and the topic of “self -image” arose. It was quite a touchy subject and sparked a heated debate! I expressed that it is not necessarily a problem when people spend LOTS of money on false hair and makeup. The problem arises when people feel UGLY and LACK CONFIDENCE without their fakery.

I’m amazed at the number of people who say to me that they cannot go to the local shop without make up on! One of my theories is that we are consciously or subconsciously comparing ourselves to what the media tells us is beautiful. At the time of writing the “Kim Kardashian look” is all the rage – thick long hair and long lashes. This looks amazing on Kim because this is her look, but it doesn’t suit EVERYONE! Is it really worth spending hundreds or even thousands of pounds a year to maintain this look? In my view a person is not any less beautiful because they have short hair and short lashes. We all look different for a reason. #JustSaying.

I think people should embrace their uniqueness and make it work for them.  Take me for example, I have dark skin, long eye lashes and a cheeky grin.  I am wearing little make up and my look is not inspired by a celebrity, it’s inspired by my features!

INSECURITY

I really don’t like insecurity. Insecurity gives birth to jealousy, rivalry and causes people to always want what others have. I remember when I was in year 6 and I always used to compete with people in my class to get the best grade. It was tiring keeping my eye on what everyone else was doing and I was drained after getting upset when others did better than I did.

Towards the end of year 6 I decided to stop competing and to just do my best. It turned out that I did a lot better when I focused my energy on what I was doing, rather than worrying about beating others.

I think there is a lesson in this story for us all- let’s stop comparing ourselves to others and BE OURSELVES! The truth is, someone will always be better than you at something, therefore it’s better to do your best and be happy with it.

Insecurity is a silent killer and I think it causes people to miss out on great relationships. I remember there being a girl in my class I could not stand because she thought she was the business. Years later she became my best friend and has been for the past 12 years! I can’t imagine my life without her and she really is the business!

So, next time you notice yourself experiencing jealousy, rivalry or wanting what others have, STOP IT, and think about why you feel that way.

My question to you is, do you compare yourself to others? If the answer is “yes”, then please don’t because you are meant to be different- different is good. You were born an original, please don’t die a copy.

Until next time.

Crystal Debrah

http://www.crystaldebrah.com

I admire her fight so I’m getting involved!

Hello,

So here I am again blogging!

Lot’s of people want things, but do nothing to get what they want. I’ve never really understood it but I guess that’s the way some people are…

A few days ago I received a message from a friend of mine called Sirkka who REALLY wants something and she is doing all she can to get it. I admire her efforts and feel moved to do more than just give- I’ll use THIS BLOG to help. 

I’ve leave you with her words… 

Hi guys,

I really wanted to share my story and ask for your support (if possible) with everything that is happening.

So….I was recently offered a place at university in Ireland to study as a graduate. I was originally told by the university and the bank that I would be eligible to receive a tuition loan for my four years of study once I had been offered a place on the course. After paying nearly £300 for the entrance exams and applications I was offered a place on the 2nd of August 2012 (which I accepted). This dream was however cut-short by a change in bank policy, which was made nearly a week after I had accepted my offer and which now states that only Irish residents are eligible to receive a tuition loan. I have to raise £6000 in 3 weeks to pay the first half of my yearly tuition and am looking for anyone who might be able to help me, even if it is a small amount.

If you are able to help me you can go to www.youcaring.com and search ‘This is my dream.’ You should see my picture and my story.

I have attached a link below to help you find it.

http://www.youcaring.com/fundraiser_details?fundraiser_id=7602&url=thisismydream

Thank you in advance for all your support!

Sirkka

As you know I’m big on university (published my first book entitled, “What They Don’t Tell You about University”), so this story struck a chord in me. 

NOT only has Sirkka set up the giving account above, but she’s set up a concert to raise money! 

Here are her own words:

So…I am having a fundraiser on the 31st of August to help me raise some of the money I need to go to University. It will be at 7pm in Greenwich (Cutty Sark) and I would love to see you all there. It will be a live music and poetry event so expect to see all your favourite artists!

Expect the likes of…

*Midé*

*Chiedzalisa*

*Delicia Edgar*

*Veronica Lewis*

*Leine-Marie*

And more….

I am asking that you guys pay £5 to get in although if you would like to give more I would really appreciate that too. 

(THE VENUE ADDRESS WILL BE POSTED SOON)

Keep an eye on the facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/events/408209622561601/?notif_t=plan_user_invited

Thank you all for your support in this.

Sirkka.

So, if like me you admire Sirkka’s efforts then please do what you can to help:

  • Give
  • Go to the concert
  • Re-blog this blog
  • Do all of the above!

Until next time.

Crystal Debrah